Saturday, August 28, 2010

Carefrontation Sandwish

Sometimes you have to confront poor or inappropriate behavior.  Sometimes it's an immediate response when the behavior occurs; but sometimes it's something you need to sit down and talk with your child about.
Be sure that the times of genuine praise far outnumber the times of criticism, or as I would prefer to call it here, carefrontation.
Praise for good and positive.  Make sure s/he hears and understands your praise.  Praise for specific things in front of other people.
When you do need to speak with your child about a poor or inappropriate behavior, start with something you appreciate about your child.  Talk with them about the issue that concerns you, including any consequence, and then finish with something positive about your child at the end.  If it's going to take some time for you to calm down enough to do it this way, then take the time.
Remember, you can correct immediately when a poor or inappropriate behavior occurs; however, make sure you genuinely praise your child, more often than you reprimand.

Supplemental Materials:
What is CareFrontation?
Carefrontation is a distinct move away from the old model of "Confrontation" that ... Carefrontation is different.
The Art of CAREfrontation
In 1978 Bernie Siegel originated Exceptional Cancer Patients, a specific form of individual and group therapy utilizing patients’ drawings, dreams, images and feelings. ECaP is based on “carefrontation,” a safe, loving therapeutic confrontation, which facilitates personal lifestyle changes, personal empowerment and healing of the individual’s life. The physical, spiritual and psychological benefits which followed led to his desire to make everyone aware of his or her healing potential. He realized exceptional behavior is what we are all capable of.

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