Saturday, August 28, 2010

Anger, Parenting, Children: Feer, Feelings, Depression, Behavior, and Manipulation

“A man is about as big as the things that make him angry”
Winston Churchill

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

“Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.”

There is nothing more galling to angry people than the coolness of those on whom they wish to vent their spleen. ~Alexandre Dumas

Life is too short to hold a grudge, also too long. ~Robert Brault,

He who angers you conquers you.  ~Elizabeth Kenny

People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing.  ~Will Rogers

Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.  ~Malachy McCourt

Not the fastest horse can catch a word spoken in anger. ~Chinese Proverb

Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools. ~Albert Einstein

Sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel. ~Author Unknown

I don't have to attend every argument I'm invited to.  ~Author Unknown

The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk.  ~Jacqueline Schiff

Anger is interesting.  Sometimes it is a manifestation of depression and/or the outward expression of fear.  While it may be a natural expression, exhibited inappropriately it can do tremendous harm.  Sometimes such great harm which is difficult if not impossible to repair. 
It can be a feeling and/or a behavior, it can be a manifestation of stress.  It's purpose can be purely manipulative.  Never allow yourself to be manipulated by anger, never use anger to manipulate.  Please feel free to ask questions and discuss.

This does not mean you need to or even should allow evil to be done to yourself or to others.  Boundaries and consequences are important for everyone to learn and grow, and to keep you and others safe.

Instead of any links, for further information, I recommend you use the Google Parenting and Google Scholar search engines below.  Use the word Anger associated with any of the words in the title and you will find a wealth of information.

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